AVKO Workshops & Inservices Workshop #5 Mouth Control: Helping ourselves help others gain self-control & self-esteem without using M&M's or all you ever wanted to know about how the words we choose to use can help us lose friends and antagonize people

 

Speaker:  Don McCabe, Noted Author of To Teach a Dyslexic and The Patterns of English Spelling

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Participants will learn how to help students acquire NEW PATTERNS OF SPEECH that will help them avoid violent confrontations and help them develop self-confidence and self-esteem.

• Hypothesis in Academic Jargon

  • Emotional states trigger specific and predictable speech patterns (verbal and non-verbal) that are developed over time.  These speech patterns in turn trigger the specific emotional or mental states associated with them.  Too frequently, these states and behaviors interfere with learning and create unwanted and unnecessary disturbances.

  • To the extent that a person is in control of his emotional state, he is in control of his language.

  • To the extent that a person is in control of his language, he is in control of his emotional state.

  • Rational-emotive therapy or cognitive-behavioral therapy works best when combined with changing habitual speech patterns from negative or aggressive to positive or conciliatory patterns.
  • The way an individual chooses to dress is a reflection of a behavioral mode.

• Hypothesis in plain English

  • The way you feel helps make you say what you say and the way you say it. What you say and the way you say it helps determine the way you feel.

  • If you can keep your cool, you can control what you say.

  • If you control what you say, you can keep your cool.

  • Anyone attempting to change someone's behavior will have greater success when he adds to his methods helping that person change speech habits from negative and combative to positive and friendly.

  • The clothing you wear is a form of an ongoing statement from black trench coats and gang colors to student uniforms.

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• Body Language

  • Tone of voice--It may not be what you say, but HOW you say it.

  • Facial expressions that affect you feel and how those around you react to you

  • Body postures that affect how you feel and how those around you react to you.

  • The way you wear your clothes can affect how you feel and how those around you react to you. 

• The Different Kinds of Speech Patterns -- The verbal can be described here; the non-verbal can only be demonstrated in an inservice.

  • Attention Grabbers.

    • Negative:  Hey, Man!  or Hey, Boy! or Hey, Girl!  or Hey, You!  

    • Positive:  Excuse me,

  • Names

    • Negative:  Jones

    • Positive:  Mr. Jones
       

  • Demands vs. Requests

    • Negative:  You gotta.....

    • Positive:  Would you mind...
       

  • Making it emphatic

    • Negative:  Cuss Words

    • Positive:  Slow, deliberate temp
       

  • No way, Jose.

    • Negative:  Like hell, you say.

    • Positive:  You have a point, but...
       

  • Don't interrupt me/Let me finish.

    • Negative:  Shut up.....

    • Positive:  Just one moment, and I'll get back with you...
       

  • Yeah, I'm listening, keep talking.

    • Negative:  Yeah, man I hear you.

    • Positive:  You're right about that.
       

  • Defend/Attack

    • Negative:  Why are you always.....?

    • Positive:  I have a hard time understanding you when you...
       

  • Name Calling

    • Negative:  Expletive deleted.

    • Positive:   Still searching for a single example.
       

  • This is the way it is, I can't be wrong.

    • Negative:   I never...... or you never said...

    • Positive:  I don't recall....

       

• Participants will receive a copy of the book, Get Outta my Face! Get offa my Case that covers:

  • Step One:  Recognizing the Problem

  • Step Two:  Giving Staff (or family) Inservices

  • Step Three:  Making Sure the Staff (or family members) Understand the Underlying Theories

  • Step Four:  Helping the Staff (or family) Plan the Course of Action.:

And Now the Surprise!
    The Low, Low cost of AVKO Inservices

• Cost:  $600.00 a day, plus expenses.  Grants available.

• Grants of up to $300.00 available to school systems that can demonstrate a need for financial assistance.

• Grants of up to $500.00 available to home school support groups, adult literacy organizations such as local chapters of the International Dyslexia Association, the Learning Disabilities Association, Literacy Volunteers of America, Laubach Literacy, Michigan Literacy, Reading Reform Foundation, the Right to Read Foundation, and any independent local literacy group.

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